All About Magic of Making Up

A lack of communication causes many break ups to occur.  Not talking, not listening, not sharing about things important to the both of you can strangle the intimacy.  People often end relationships because of bad communication.  You can learn more aboutbad relationship advice here.

If this was involved in ending your relationship, there are some things you can do to get your ex back.  You need to demonstrate that you can be a good listener and communicator.

This is not hard to do.  To begin with, you can call your ex and tell him or her how you feel about them.  Open up and share yourself, say what it is like to be without them, say what it feels like in your heart.  Be vulnerable.  Speak from your heart.  It will often touch theirs.

Next, focus on being a good listener.  Ask them some questions.  Get them to open up.  You might say “how do you feel about how I treated you?”  You can get more about resolving relationship conflict here.

One way to be a good listener is to be quiet.  So ask a question then shut up.  Be okay with some silence.  Let your ex take all the time they want to consider their feelings and start to share them with you.

Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood.  Say things like “I’m following you, please continue…”  Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.

Another listening skill is to not argue or defend yourself.  Let them vent.  Don’t interrupt, don’t justify, don’t try to explain you really didn’t mean it.  All of that will shut your ex down.  All of that will prove that you are not good at communication, which is a perception you are trying to reverse.  Just listen til they are done then apologize after they are finished.

There’s more to it, but just these few pointers are a great start.  If your ex feels you are becoming a good listener, they may see you in a new light.  This can open up their heart and make room for them to reconsider being with you.  You can get a complete system about how to get your ex back here.